What you need to be asking yourself when you’re wondering whether he’ll call and trying to calculate when, is: Because remember that from the moment that someone breaks up with you, a major signal needs to be going to your brain that you and this person are not on the same page, and that rather than value you and do everything in their power to make the relationship work, they would rather opt . For a start, obsessing and thinking about what they may or may not do are signs that you are not moving on, still heavily emotionally invested, and in essence conducting your relationship with him in your imagination.You know that you are grieving, healing, and moving on when you’re not throwing away your time priming yourself for a possible phonecall, text, or instant message that may or may not happen. You should be too busy getting on with your life to be on tenterhooks for the joker! I hate to be a parade killer, but having two star crossed lovers that have an obstacle crop up at just the right moment to push them apart, for it to be resolved in 90 minutes just isn’t real life.But…women, especially Fallback Girls and assclown lovers are obsessed with the big question: Will he try to get in contact with me?Now like a lot of things in poor relationships, obsessing over the what if’s of this question is a reflection of the female trapping of suffering from Women Who Talk and Think Too Much syndrome and not seeing the wood for the trees.So, instead of asking, will he try to get in touch with me? Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.Ask yourself ‘Is the door going to be open for you to receive his contact? Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.’ We make too many excuses for men, we let them off the hook, and we’re hearing but we’re not listening because one way or another, the guy is showing or telling you which way the land really lies, but you just don’t want to see or hear it.The key to all of this, is what happens you live happily ever after? Does he do everything that you’ve been asking for and continue to do it?
Next thing you know, you’re in relegation zone and been demoted from girlfriend, to ex, to the other woman. The worst kinds of men like Mr Unavailables and assclowns are ego and…often penis driven.I am a huge advocate for using the No Contact Rule on men that just seem to have an allergy to breaking up and making a clean break.Even when you don’t have to get medieval on him and cut contact, I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it a million times again, this whole staying in touch and trying to be friends after you’ve broken up is BS – just ask the millions of women out there that are secretly hoping for him to suddenly see them for the great women they are so they can have their fairy tale ending, who actually in effect end up being used for a shag and/or an ego stroke.If you’re sort of hanging on the fringes, sending smoke signals that you’re ‘there’, he will make contact as and when he needs you.If you tell him you don’t give a sh*t about him, if he’s from the egotistical stable, he’s likely to want to prove you wrong.