Hiding your anxiety about being single becomes a top priority. Dating in your 30s might not sound like as much fun as it did in your 20s, but it certainly doesn’t have to be a chore.(You probably don’t attend a weekly pub night with your sorority sisters anymore.) With fewer fish to choose from — and likely a busier schedule that keeps you from leisurely bumping into Mrs. Right — now is a good time to give online dating a shot. Say goodbye to the rules, the formulas and the ticking clocks.Matchmaking sites can let you be specific about who you’re looking for and what kind of relationship you’re seeking. It’s okay to desire marriage and a family, but you can’t go on a date accessorized with the desperate pressure to settle down.Live life to the fullest and pursue the kind of life you want to be living. If you thought meeting people was tough in your 20s, you’re likely to find dating after 30 to be even trickier.Bonus: a happy, confident, fulfilled individual is an attractive one. The proverbial pool has shrunk, with more of your peers in long-term relationships or marriages, and with your social circle feeling smaller.Don’t let your relationship status limit your life, or your age limit your relationships.I recently tried to schedule a ladies’ night with three single friends, and it quickly became one of those endless email threads that looped and circled for weeks. Play rehearsals, sailing clubs, volunteer work, art openings—these are the things that fill my single friends’ calendars.
The more you know yourself, the less willing you are to change, the “pickier” you become with your partners—and the harder they become to find. It’s good because you want avoid game-playing and wasting your time; but can be bad if the pressure to settle down leads you to force a relationship that isn’t working.04. (This handy guide to the best dating apps should help, though.)08. Not at all wondering if I’ll ever get married or find true love or have children of my own. You start telling your parents about every date you go on so they don’t lie awake at night worried they’ll never have grandchildren. My parents got married when they were 24 years old. In other words, my friends—all roughly the same age, all grown-up professionals—are at different life stages.My married friends are at the place where women over 30 are generally expected to be—doing the work-family juggle, Sundays with the in-laws.Having survived the immature sagas of youth, you’re ready to hit your stride, relationship-wise.Here’s a short guide to dating after your 30th birthday. You’re likely to have a better perspective of dating than you did in your infatuated teen years.